What's the Use?

Audio Blog - August 11, 2011 by SimpleStepsRealChange.com

Do you have times when you just feel like why should you bother?  No matter what you do it's not going to be good enough... or worse you know that you're going to screw it up anyway?  When we get beat down for so long it's really hard to even want to get back up. 

We tend to get to this place when there is a series of mistakes, problems, challenges or just plain old bad stuff that happens.  It doesn't matter if it's small stuff... or really big.  The constant negative vibe wears us down.

If you find yourself in this place try these Simple Steps to up your energy and get back to a positive place:

• Make a list of all of your successes or positive experiences.  For example if it is work that isn't working take the time to go through and identify all of the good experiences that you've had in the past.  No item is too small for this.  Example might be complements that you have received from your customers or clients, special projects that you have been given because of your ability, a raise or bonus when business wasn't the best.  Keep this list and add to it as you remember other positive situations.

• Next consider the last few days or hours where it wasn't going the way that you hoped.  How do these compare to the list that you created above?  This step is about adding some perspective.  A client barking at you all day long may have nothing to do with you and more to do with what is going on in their life. (And the same might be true of your boss. )

• If in this process you have learned something about yourself write it down or better yet say it out loud.  For example, "I usually take good care of my customers and they are happy with our services.  Today I didn't call the customer back like I promised and they are upset and talked to my boss.  I am going to call them and apologize and take that extra step to make this right."  Then do what you know that you need to.

It isn't all the negative situations that wear us down... it is what we do in response to them.  When we keep them in perspective and handle them with dignity and grace they become success stories.   And isn't that what your track record is anyway? When you focus on the bigger picture... the picture of your successes then you'll realize what you are going through is just an experience.  One of many.  Focus on the positive!

Unlimiting Yourself

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These last few days I've been spending time reading and trying to get to the heart of the conflicting feelings in my head.  Ever have days when you are going down a path but know deep inside that you're going the wrong way? Somehow we get stuck in a frame of mind and think that we can't do things differently.

What if what we are doing out of habit or belief is wrong for us?  We get to this place in our lives where we live on auto pilot.  For example I have long believed that while I may write that I am not a creative person.   Another belief is that if I don't start my day with a Diet Coke I'm going to be miserable.  Maybe this one sounds familiar... I can't do anything different because that is what people have come to expect of me and I have to be the stable one. 

For just a moment make the assumption that all of those self defeating beliefs are wrong. If you believe in the Law of Attraction then this will make sense.  If you believe that you can't... then you can't.  If you focus on what you can't do/be/have then you are reinforcing those thoughts.  If I believe that I am not creative then I am not.  What are your self-defeating thoughts doing for you?  Nothing good!

Eliminating self defeating beliefs takes determination.  It also requires you to believe that your abilities are limitless.... which they are!  When you recognize that as fact it will be exciting, empowering and motivating.  Even more importantly you'll start to take actions which support your limitlessness, drawing more to you.  

What then is today's Simple Step?  Entertain the thought that your abilities are limitless to create the life of your dreams.  Just consider the possibility and how your life would be different without your self assessed limitations.  Imagine it, visualize it, feel the freedom!

What do you have to lose except your limits?!?  And that is exciting!   

We'll talk more about eradicating limiting beliefs in this week's blogs.