Be Happy for Others... And Happy for Yourself!

Happy For Others by SimpleStepsRealChange.com

When you look upon someone else's success... what is your first thought?  Are you happy for them?  Wonder why not you?  Do you think of something negative about them that somehow devalues their achievement? Or do you look to them for inspiration and as a role model? 

How you choose to view another directly effects you.  If your thoughts are negative then your life will continue along path where you are never really happy.  It is as if you think that there is a competition between you and this other person... even if you don't even know them.  Your mind goes into this place of "lack"...  As you compare yourself to another, which is exactly what you are doing, one or the other of you is going to come up on the short end of the stick.  The process alone wreaks of negativity.

There is no lack in the world.  Someone else having a successful career or home life doesn't deprive you or anyone else of having one too.  There is an unlimted supply of happiness.  Sure there may be limits on some material items... but they will never make you happy.

When you instead choose to be happy for the other person, genuinely happy, you start a ripple of positivity that spreads quickly... and envelopes your life in positive energy.  It is what you give that you receive back.  And there is abundance beyond your wildest dreams when you stay in the mind frame where blessings rule!

If you need a little help overcoming jealousy over another's success try one of these Simple Steps:

• Ask yourself what another's success deprives you of.  Make a list. 
• If you have anything on this list at all ask yourself if you are incapable of obtaining/achieving that particular item.  If you aren't then you'll realize that another's success doesn't effect you negatively.
• If you find something that you believe that you can't achieve because the other person has ask yourself if your thought about it is true?  Or can you obtain or achieve it in some other way or time?  Maybe the exact "prize" is taken... but the world is filled with prizes ripe for the picking!

When you master the mindset of being genuinely happy for another you'll realize that you have mastered the art of being happy for yourself.  And that feels great!

Trying Too Hard?

TryingTooHard by SimpleStepsRealChange.com

There was a time in my life that I'd jump through hoops to make someone else happy.  It may have been a boss, my parents, a teacher and even my sister.  No matter what I did... for some people... nothing was good enough.  That didn't matter though... I kept on trying. 

It took me many years to realize that I could never make someone else happy.  In most cases they just wanted life to go their way. True happiness can only come from within and each person has their own definition of what brings them joy.    

If you find yourself trying too hard to please another it's time take the time to assess your true motivation.  From there you can determine whether you need to change direction.  Here is a Simple Step to help you make that determination. 

Ask youself the all important question:  Who is going to benefit from your actions?   

• If it's not you but rather your company, boss, family or others ask youself if you are the best person to do the job. If not then it's time to have a good conversation with the person you are trying to please.

• If everyone involved is going to benefit then consider who else should be working to accomplish the goal.  Create a team and allow others to share in the adventure.  You don't need to take it all on yourself. 

There may be those circumstances, such as a requirement for a job, where you don't feel that you have a choice. It's up to you to determine if you need to power through the task or consider finding a different job that utilizes your strengths better.

If you realize that you are the sole beneficiary and you still feel like you're trying too hard and getting nowhere then stop what you are doing.  Give yourself a break and consider other options. That may include asking for help or doing it differently. Or maybe you just need a break.  If it is something that is important to you... you will find a way.

With a little time to think through what you are doing you'll realize your true motivation.  And it is in that knowledge you can decide what's important to you. It's your choice.